Old Fashioned Text Messages, Chats with Jules and Endless Cups of Tea = an Afternoon at Manor Hall

I have been officially phoneless for 4 days now and, would you believe, I'm actually coping. In fact, I'm sort of enjoying it. Albeit there's a frustrating element to being virtually un-contactable but there's also a real sense of fun in finding alternative ways to contact people. A particular favourite of mine is slipping postcards under people's doors. I started doing this long before my phone was stolen but after the last couple of days I'm finding that my stash of blank postcards is running dangerously low. This afternoon I needed answers from three people living in completely different wings and annexes of Manor Hall, so I wrote out three postcards, drank some tea, threw a scarf on and played a game of Postman Pat around Lower Clifton Hill...I have yet to receive replies, but this is old fashioned text-messaging my friend; snail mail takes time.

After my little jolly I had an irrevocable desire for a chin-wag with one of the boys on 0-West, I decided to go and visit my friend Jules, because I like sitting on his window seat and he's so easy to talk to. So there I spent an hour sat on the window seat (which is conveniently on top of the radiator) flicking through a copy of Epigram (the student paper) and chatting to Jules about my day, my family and all the things pretentious languages students talk about. This is one of my favourite things about living in Hall - I get to live with my friends! I love being able to pop into people's rooms, get a glimpse of their life through their photos, chatting to them about uni, literature, tv shows, religion etc. etc. Anyway, must dash, my lazy afternoon in Manor has come to an end and I have a German Play meeting to be at in approx...10 minutes. Why am I always LATE!?

Jules with his juice. He's so lovely.

UGLY BETTY FACE

Just casually reading a bit of EPI...LOOK HOW HUGE HIS ROOM IS!? *envy*

Sunday Morning in Clifton Village

Last Sunday I tried yet ANOTHER church. Once again I thoroughly enjoyed it and further complicated my impending decision. After taking a confused and overstimulated walk through the streets of Clifton praying my rather frequent and desperate prayer of 'GOD WHERE DO YOU WANT ME!?' I suddenly realised how idyllic and lovely a sunny Sunday morning could be. I decided to phone my flatmate Ellie who had just taken her boyfriend to see the suspension bridge and suggested that we meet up for coffee somewhere. So we did. We found the most amazing coffee shop called Coffee One, it's a tiny, cosy place with very wholesome decor and an ecletic selection of drinks. I had a Pumpkin Spice Latte because I was really feeling the autumnal vibe and the three of us sat in lazy, comfortable conversation for a good hour or so, enjoying the whole atmosphere of Clifton community. We then decided to have a good old browse in the Clifton Arcade which is full of vintage, independent and antique shops bursting with little treasures, trying on boots, hats and looking longingly at the lovely tea inspired jewelry in the craft shop. I felt so relaxed and happy spending time with one of my best friends and her lovely boyfriend in such a lovely, lovely place. Words cannot truly express the beauty of the morning, so I'll leave you with a few pictures of our trip and ask all you christians out there to pray that I decide on a church soon and the rest of you (christians included) when you'll next be coming down to visit me in my beautiful Bristol manor house :-) Ciao for now!


This is where I'm at...

For the first time in my life I am truly content. There is no where else in the world I would rather be than here. I'm finally living in the tension, I've found a balance, I've created a community and a lifestyle that is completely my own. Sometimes I live out my schoolgirl daydream of gliding gracefully through Bristol with a coffee flask in hand and a leather satchel full of books looking serene and incredibly profound and other times I experience the dark, incredibly hectic side of student living where I run up and down hills in shoes that are falling apart looking like a flustered, sleep-deprived mess. In the past week I've had my phone stolen, lost my ipod, written a letter to my father describing one of my professors as a man in a dress and then accidentally dropped it on the floor after her lecture without realising, had 20 hours of rehearsals, been attacked by pick and mix sweets, had to eat the same revolting combination of food two days in a row because everything was going mouldy, had vivid nightmares anddream mares of my professor reading my letter and hating me for all eternity, received a faulty and unreliable replacement phone, been on two unnecessary library tours showing how to find books on shelves, learnt a ridiculous amount of Italian and averaged about 6 hours of sleep a night.

At the same time it has occurred to me that a bad, stressful day in Bristol really isn't a bad day at all. Whilst many things have gone wrong they no longer waver my confidence or ignite that fearful, lonely anxiety that hovered over my head throughout Fresher's Week. This place always manages to make me happy however frustrating or disheartening the days' events have been. For example, yesterday was a bad day and I decided that rather than inviting more disaster into my Monday I would just go to bed and avoid the world till Tuesday morning. Yet just as I was about to get into my jimmies a girl from the CU knocked on my door and asked me if I wanted to go for a walk and get pick and mix. I of course agreed and a group of us walked down to the shops at about 10 30 to buy sweets and chips and hung out in a kitchen drinking Ribena. Then this evening, floor 5 decided to have a tea and cake sesh in the kitchen at 8pm. It was gorgeous. Furthermore, the scenery here is just breathtaking, I've been fortunate enough to see Clifton at various times in the day and it never ceases to stupefy me with its beauty. Last night as we walked around in the dark, the sky was so clear, the stars were so bright...I'm aware this sounds incredibly cliche but it really was utter perfection. I'm so glad that I've reached a stage in my life where I'm happy to be fully present. I no longer wait for the weekend or wish away my time. I stand firm in every second, minute, hour and day drinking in the blessing that is my life at university.



Cloudy Days, Memories and a Mitch Albom Quote


Today was cold. Gone is the warm glow of the sun as it shines through the orange filter of leaves, tonight there will be no rosy rays on the windows of the posh houses in Clifton, instead there is a fresh, grey air that will happily nip at your fingertips and make you miss your winter coat. Yet Bristol manages to maintain its charm. There is a house down the road that has the most beautiful fairy-lights draped across the guttering and all the little cafes and bistros around Clifton Village look so warm and cosy that it makes me look forward to the weekend when I can officially afford to buy myself a coffee and sit in a huge armchair by a window and engage in some people-watching. When the sky is grey the leaves stand-out so that in spite of the cloud there is still masses of colour and that sweet, dirty smell of fallen leaves on the ground. I love it.

But today I can't help feeling desperately sad. It's been three months since Annie's death and it's starting to dawn on me that perhaps grief doesn't get any easier, just manageable. You get used to the occasional jolt in your heart every time something reminds you of her and the long dull ache that lines your insides when you'd give anything for one conversation, a piece of advice, a laugh, a new photo, another memory. I miss the familiarity and comfort of our friendship particularly being in a place that, despite it's beauty and homeyness, is still unfamiliar. I was listening to a T.D Jakes talk a couple of weeks ago and he said that if you have two or more close, soul-bearing relationships in your life then you are a very rich person. I'm realising more and more how incredibly lucky I was to have had such a confidant in Annie. Some people go their whole lives without experiencing friendship on such a magnificent level. Another quote I found whilst browsing through Tumblr Tuesdays was a quote by one of my favourite authors Mitch Albom and he says: ' Death ends a life not a relationship' This is so true. Whilst Annie may not be a physical presence in my life, her spirit is. Even now she inspires me and gives me hope in my future and the future of others. She challenges me to build friendships like the one we shared. I know that our relationship is eternal and will continue when I finally get myself to heaven. Until then I will have to stumble through this journey of grief, allowing myself time to cry and reflect without wallowing or stalling in the sadness, but continuing to learn and grow in order to become an Ellie she'd be proud of.

Living in the Fast Lane

I'm definitely a Fresher. If my slightly desperate and bewildered facial expression wasn't enough, I now cough and splutter through every conversation, lecture and lesson, as a result I'm always greeted with that sympathetic rather patronising phrase 'Awwww you got Fresher Flu little Fresher?' *sigh*. This week is insane because even though lectures have started we still have Fresher events in the evening, so everyone is walking around like hungover zombies and anyone who says they're going to have an early nights gets a look of envy from those who can't fight the peer pressure to stay out late and be outrageous. The last couple of days have been slightly ridiculous for me; my head is starting to ache from lack of sleep, new Italian words, new names, deciding what to cook, wear, do with my day, room numbers (everywhere in the language villa looks EXACTLY the same) newspaper articles, bank details, book list, auditions and weirdly enough, homesickness.

Yesterday I had a whole morning of grammar lectures, then two hours for lunch with a newspaper meeting in between. So I ran back to my halls, up the five flights of stairs into the kitchen, went to make toast and realised that the whole loaf of bread had gone moudly, so turned to a tin of soup and subsequently broke my tin opener, managed to get tin open, put contents into a pan, ran into my room to grab my stuff for newspaper and afternoon classes, soup exploded in pan, had to mop up soup and eat the remains out of the saucepan with a couple of rice-cakes, ran back down the hill and then up the hill to the library where I was meeting a friend and we frantically tried to find The White Bear, found the pub, had newspaper meeting, ran to Waterstones to buy very expensive grammar books, had two hours of lectures, then ran back to hall, checked into the Porter's Lodge to book the music room, dashed upstairs cooked dinner, got changed, down to music room to practice and warm-up, back out the door to the students union, ran up six flights of stairs, had audition, speed-walked back to hall, got changed, grabbed bible, walked up ANOTHER hill to church, had church, walked home, met flat mates, had girly chat, called Mum, went to bed. Crazy.

This evening has been equally busy. After an afternoon of food shopping, cooking, tidying, sorting and cooing over my new dictionary, I booked the music room again for more warm-ups before running down the Victoria Rooms for my opera audition, had opera audition, back up the hill and stairs to my kitchen where I attempted to bake a potato and make a costume. Ate my undercooked potato, grabbed some felt-tips to scribble the Berlin Wall onto a t-shirt before sprinting down to the JCR for CU meeting. Had CU meeting then ran out the door on the phone to my German Parent trying to find the start of the bar crawl. Went to a couple of bars, got incredibly bored of drunk people so skipped Lizard Lounge to return to the Manor Hall bar for silent disco with my homies.

Now I'm sitting here reading through Prego! (my rather extortionately priced Italian textbook) before my grammar lecture tomorrow. My room looks so cosy with all the desk-lights on and clothes strewn across my bed, my lovely collection of dirty mugs spread around, Thomas Mann's Tod in Venedig opened up on my armchair and Prego! balanced on my lap. I love this. I love that THIS is my life now. A life of cultural indulgence. A day-to-day existence where I can be in shows, study literature, learn languages, re-pot plants and spend time meeting new people and developing relationships with them. It's hectic and hardwork but I right now I wouldn't change it for the world.

I believe this is the beginning of a beautiful friendship: Paravia and Me.

A Note on Fresher's Week

Last Sunday I was given some good advice from a very wise 3rd year-Manorite. He told me that Freshers' Week would not be the best week of my life, it would be hard, fun, but challenging. He was absolutely right. I've had an absolute blast, I've made some incredible friends, tried new food, drink and makeup, pushed myself beyond my comfort zone, dressed up in some ridiculous outfits, explored Bristol, stayed up till 4am chatting about all those important things like boys, friends and life. For most of this week I have been so consumed with delirious happiness it's like I've been gliding everywhere. I feel complete in so many ways.

However, despite the fun and the company there is that lonely, disconnected feeling that I assume comes with leaving home and the people you love. Shauna Niequiest says that 'Sometimes we have to leave home in order to find out what we left there, and why it matters so much' and this concept has haunted me for the past seven days, particularly in relation to Annie. I'm in the place where she should be, I'm doing the things we were supposed to do together, I'm meeting people I want her to know, doing things I need to tell her about. That support I had back at home to carry me through my grief hasn't transferred to Bristol, no one here knew her and knew me as her friend. That's not to say they're not supportive or caring, it's just hard for them to really understand what a tragedy it is and I feel guilty for talking about it. But it's not just grief that's caused the discomfort, it's that realisation that you are completely on your own and that you have to re-establish yourself all over again. I still have that desperate Fresher Face that says 'Be my friend' and 'Where the HELL am I?' but so does everyone. This is where the bizarre perks of Fresher's Week come in - everyone wants friends, no one knows where they're going, so everyone will talk to you and offer to help you out. It's brilliant.

Perhaps it hasn't been the best week of my life, but it's still up there as one of my favourites. It's been a positive struggle. Despite the isolated independence I am surrounded by people and company, it's just about finding my rhythm with the characters and personalities that have imprinted themselves into such a significant week of my life. I love them all so much already and I can't wait to spend this season of learning and development with such an amazing, eclectic group of individuals.

Room 5.5: A Fresh Start



I'm sitting in my room. My new, cosy, gorgeous, uni room. How cute is the view from my window!? There's a little armchair right next to it and I intend to spend a good part of this year reading and overlooking the lovely clifton. There's even a little shelf for holding mugs! The weather is so in touch with my emotions today: it rained all the way down in the car and as soon as we entered Bristol the sun began to shine! I'm so excited. I can't wait to meet new people, study, sing, write AHHH. Uni yay! Here are some pics of my room :-) Welcome to Ellie's new adventure!



29th September, 2010

I love reading my bible. This morning I woke up desperate to spend sometime with God, I've recently had such a longing to be close to him all the time. It's awesome. At the moment I'm reading a lot of Isaiah, now I never thought that this particular book would be relevant to me and my life in anyway at all, but pretty much everything I've read has challenged, soothed and inspired me. When I read these verses I'm reminded of God's bigness. He's huge! I love, love, love it. I'm believing more and more that a successful uni experience relies on me continuing to cultivate my relationship with God - it will give me peace, understanding, wisdom and calm any fear or anxiety about my future.

It's so cool to think that God has a plan for my life. I'm constantly bombarding him with questions, demanding details but he always brings me back to this verse in Joshua ' I will give you every place where to set your foot' and numerous others on patience. I am short-sighted when it comes to tomorrow, I can only see what has already been revealed, so instead I find contentment in providing God with a wish-list for my future. If there's something I desperately want to do then I just slide onto the list and offer it to God hoping that he might open doors for me. It's so much easier to tell God about my dreams. I once shared with someone how I want my future to plan out and they said 'I'm all for ambition Ellie but don't you think you're being unrealitic?' This actually broke my heart. There is too much about this life that I love, so many things I'm passionate about and so many creative projects I want to pursue, so why should I, a girl bout to step on to a GIANT springboard, confine myself to one dream when I can dream two or five! Again Isaiah answered my question this morning:

Enlarge the place of your text,
Stretch your tent curtains wide,
do not hold back,
lengthen your chords,
strengthen your stakes.
For you will spread out to the right and to the left;
your descendants will dispossess nations and settle in their desolate cities.
Isaiah 54:2-3

We happily throw about the phrase 'Our God is the God of the impossible' but if we don't actually believe in it and have the faith to see the impossible become possible then why the hell are we saying it? I believe God can do anything and I believe that with God I can be all that I need to be. I can be the journalist, opera singer, traveller, who's worked for the UN, studied theology, art history and liberal arts, worked in Starbucks, recorded a Jazz Album, started a family, drama teacher, Brecht expert, bible whizz, Gilmore Girl, political fashion blogger who's won an oscar and set up a chain of coffee/book shops. Hahaha yes I'm insane and at the end of the day I'm happy to coast on the wave that God sends me and if I have to omit some of these dreams then so be it, but I believe that every single one of my desperate dreams are, with an incredible amount of hard work, within my grasp. Perhaps not all at once and certainly not without discipline in my faith and my character. But that's the whole fun of it, to push myself, increase my capacity and see where this life will take me!